The Ordeal Of A Man In Bad Shape

By Dr jalarth Uche Opara

The elegance of a man in his twenties, his vigor in his thirties, the boisterousness of his forties and oftentimes the power and energy of his fifties can disappear in his sixties and seventies.

This may not be true in all cases , some in their eighties come up strong like a bazooka.

This largely is the truth and reality of many men and many have had course to be emotional about it, grief-stricken, with regret and nostalgic feelings that do nothing but pull them close to their graves, especially those that are not lucky with spouses with virtuous lifestyle.

Was very vibrant in his youthful years, the game of socialising was played with precision, style and steeze. The ladies’ man, with a deep pocket that hardly runs empty with cash to be spent. Got attracted to a young girl in her teenage age, got her pregnant at 19 years and married her at 20 years.

35 years age difference. Huge! But they were blinded by the euphoria of the moment. It was all rossy until the energy level of the man began to drop at 70 while the wife was still building her energy and momentum at 35 to rock life.

It was hell for him, living in suspicion, always monitoring the young and youthful wife who obviously was getting satisfaction somewhere else.

The mere thought of it was killing the man. He tried to get back to form, nature is always inevitable. He tried to checkmate her, her slippery nature was worse than an eel.

At 75 years he got accident which affected the spinal cord. Bed ridden, more of a vegetable, completely helpless but mentally alert.

Each day that dawns, his eyes behold the beauty of the wife, dripping with life and energy, but couldn’t touch her even with a long stick.

He feels the sensation, his mind runs wide and his imagination very crazy but it remains floppy, weak and inactive. He knows that the wife isn’t faithful but can’t do anything about it. He is alive but with no life. He lies on the bed each day, staring on the ceiling, but his mind hovers around the wife, well endowed who has become the delight of other men at their beck and call.

Yesterday I visited him as late as 10pm, the wife was out, yet to be home, her normal lifestyle according to him . He groans in pains, dying gradually,not because of the spinal cord injury but out of imagination. His mind craves for it, his imagination creates virtual images of what was before now his “A Game” with mastery in it, but nature speaks, age sets in and mishap made it worse. He can’t dare!

Many men are in this situation of emotional distress. Nature has set in, power dropped, energy waned but their spouse though very active are rubbing the wound with salt by seeking succour elsewhere.

The worse situation any man can ever find himself. Let us pray for such men, my conversation with him yesterday, opened my eyes, it is a place I wish no man. Watching your spouse becomes the delight of other men as a result of ones inactiveness. Many families are crumbling under this weight.

Jarlath Uche Opara Jarlathuche@gmail.com
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