Sen. Natasha’ Suspension!

Dr. Jarlath Uche Opara Jarlathuche@gmail.com

Discretion is a better part of valour, what matters in life isn’t most times what happens to one but how one essentially reacts to them. Tell me anything, call me names so obnoxious and repulsive, it would either become like water off the Duck’ back or a stab of a sharp knife into my heart depending on the degree of my emotional involvement into them.

Not all battles are to be fought and not all rain fall that should warrant bringing out bucket. Somethings should be glossed over, shakened off and possibly stepped on and move on.

Words are flexible, their meaning either conventionally , connotatively or detonatively can be escalated or de-emphasied depending on the emotional maturity of the one at the receiving end.

The sexual harrasment accussation of Sen. Natasha Akpoti Uduaghan agsinst Sen. Godwill Akpabio has been trending massively. Social media buzzing, the most sensational news now if you ask me.

I have on two occasions made my stand known on it. This should be my last piece on it. After this it becomes a matter of less importance in my priority scale.

Six months suspension with no salary and security has been slammed on Sen. Natasha. Within this period she won’t in any way present herself as a Senator of the Federal Republic of Nigeria anywhere and upon resumption after the suspension would be expected to tender an apology letter to the Senate .

All these would have been avoided if wisdom was brought to bear. Nah! it was subdued by crave to play to the gallery for personal pursuites and other self seeking motives .

Thinking aloud in the quietness of my heart, the following musings popped up. I may be wrong, neverthless, such musings are my reality and truth.

1) Natasha didn’t tell us that Sen. Akapbio touched her inappropriately

2) She didn’t tell us that he used raw words that suggest sexual intimacy on her .

3) She didn’t tell us that Sen. Godwill lured her to a closet and struggled with her.

4) She did’nt tell us that Sen. Akpabio looked at her in a very suggestive way

5) Why did it take her that long before bringing fort the accussation?

6) Was Sen . Godswill Akpabio the only Senator or man that had ever made passes at her in the manner she described? If no ,why didn’t she treat his as inconsequential and allow such to slide if there was no self seeking motive attached to it?

7) Did Sen Akpabio threaten her if she refuses to succumb to his overtures?

8) Would she have opened up on such accussation if her seat was not changed?

These musings may sound very pedestrain to some , however , the reality is, there was something up her sleeves that propelled such acussations. While keep quiet when the goldmine was gone and the possiblity of getting it back slim, she must have told herself. A good hatchet job , clinically done if you ask me, with concequences unimaginable, snowballing only God knows where the destination is.

As a worrioress she is, fighting for survival, anything became a weapon, even things which she would have handled with diginity, bracing up to the challenges, intimidation, etc dispassionately without being overly emotional, dramatic and playing to the gallery.

I don’t support sexual harrasment that has substance . Harrasment that can be concretized by suggestive strong words, touching etc. Just as I said in my previous posts, I didn’t consider those two scenes she painted as strong sexual harrassments. They may be implied anyway.

If as a woman , her emotional intelligence isn’t strong and balance enough to handle the men’ suggestive words of validation of her natural endowment without making a drama of it then there is a problem especially when there is no rape or any attempt to it.same is applicable to men.

Natasha was fired up by a motive only God knows what it is, which eventualy became her albatrose.

Women are no weaker sex, I tell you for free. They should be incharge of their space without being intimidated by the chauvinism of men or using sexual harassment as jelly tools to win public sympathy.

The sex harrasment based on her narration, by my accessment sounds very petty, deameaning, condescending etc to be entertained in the gathering of distinguished , who should be charged with the responsibility of making quality laws not discussing frivorous matters of juvenile and tenegers’ talks.

Members of the red chambers should be people with sieved personalities. Not lousy men and women who would be cracking jokes needlessly, using words carelessly and having a display of public affection with their spouses at the hallowed house. Too petty and dramatically teenger’ act.

Real men and women are like palmwine tappers and hunters they don’t talk all that they see. Discretion is the better part of valour, tact and taciturn virtues only people of deep personality have.

Tell me anything you would want to tell me. Call me names with a discription that is suggestive of prostitution, if there is no forcefully touch of indecency, rape or attempt of it , I would like a queen or King move on, showing you how impotent your words can be and how unnoticed your verbal expression of indecency can be, a mere expression of your frustration of not having that “something” you longed for.

NB: Harass is to delibrately annoy or threaten someone: I ask again from the definition of the word Harass, can anybody in fairness without sounding emotional that Sen. Akpabio harassed Sen Natasha sexually?

With this drama, the duo have a stigma which should have been avoided if they had allowed wisdom to be profitable in their space. The duo threw caustion to the wind and this crazy whirlwind is spinning them around, with a barge of infamous popularity.