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The Fun, Bland and Pain Of Funeral!
By Dr jarlat Uche opara
When death happens, it seems heaven would fall. It comes with thunderbolt, shocks that numbs, creating rage, sadness and disillusionment.
Humans are beings of emotions. Oftentimes with reactions that are impulsive and transient, with the ability to switch emotional feelings effortlessly.
Life Is full of hidden drama, nothing about life is known on one fell swoop. It may glow today and dims tommorow. Quacks today, tomorrow it sings with a voice so meliferous. Looks gloomy now but radiates with the most dazzling smiles next moment.
Funeral can be fun. Never gloomy all through. It may begin with tears and sadness, pains and sorrows, anxiety and hopelessness of what the future holds. But certainly it ends with smiles, dance steps and merriment.
It shows how transient life can be. How flexible it can get and how unpredictable it can become.
See! Let me tell anyone that cares to listen, there is nobody that is indispensable. Think you are, your absence and how they would adjust to it so fast would shock you.
However their lives seem wrapped around you, however your presence seems the air they breathe and however a messiah they see in you, the truth is, the world wouldn’t stop in honor of your passing. The moon wouldn’t stop shining and neither would the sun stop glowing just because one passed. Just like all these natural elements would move on with their duties, ones loved ones wouldn’t stop too to moon on ones passing. They would sorrow, but they would dance too, drink, eat, crack jokes and laugh. No death is so painful that the bereaved remain so gloomy, sad and inconsolable.
There is always a point when one reaches the sorrow climax, decending the ladder of sorrow into the joy and happiness of life becomes an unconcious act.
Funeral can be fun. For some a time to drink and eat. For others a time to look for something to steal. Still for others a moment of eyeing either the widow or the widower of the deceased for possible emotional connection, while for others it provides that opportunity to assess the wealth or wretchedness of the bereaved.
Funeral comes with a portpouri of things, the joy, the sad, the pains, the gains. The truth is, nobody is too important for others to die their death. We would all die our death, no ones life is more important than another. As you live, do the best you can to love yourself. Give yourself a good treat, stop by the road side and smell some roses. Nobody would live your life, same way nobody would die your death, and your death wouldn’t disrupt either the purpose of the next person however closed and cherished.
Never expect your passing be the padlock of another’s joy and destiny, rather let it be the key to unlock the locked keys of their destines.
The truth is, the deaths of some husbands and wives have brought open doors to their bereaved spouses, while to some a can of hardship. Whichever way it happens, heaven wouldn’t fall, life goes on and the memories of you may not be erased but certainly may not be at the centre of their lives. They have their lives to live and wouldn’t sacrifice it, eternally grieving for your death.
Learn to take good care of yourself while the breath in you is still functional. Once it ceases, life certainly would go on!! Nothing stops because death occurs, no matter who is involved.
*Last line*: However lavished or austere a funeral is, the deceased is gone and benefits nothing neither from the lavishness of their funeral nor suffers the shame of lack that characterized it .Everything done at the funeral isn’t for the passed- on soul, rather for the living, either to save face or to flaunt and show class. Vanity if you ask me!!
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